>THE PLIGHT OF WOMEN TODAY, 1999 >Keywords: The safety of women and children, the rights of women and children, vigilance, precautions, pornography, addictions, addictive behaviors, erotica, bestiality, babies, brutality, brutal rape, brutal torture, sexual slavery © by R. L. Tyler on 05/06/99 >Tyler, at oldservant@mindspring.com, 0953@geocities.com, oldservant@planetall.com >http://www.geocities.com/Athens/Troy/6916/MFile_Index99. txt >I am the father of three wonderful women and I love them dearly. I am the step-father of two very attractive and lovely daughters. I am the devoted friend of a single mother and her four darling daughters. I have been "married" five times to five wonderful women whom I love dearly, even the dead one. My best friends are women. My world is full of the wonderfulness, the delightfulness and the preciousness of women. I believe women are the epitome of God's creation. >As with all of God's creation, the Enemy's goal and desire is to spoil it, ruin it, and/or destroy it. He succeeded in ruining the Garden of Eden experience for Adam and Eve. He has succeeded in making the life of most women on earth an inferior one, a second class one, a vulnerable one, a life often marked with exploitation of the woman and little thought being given to her needs and wants. >Generally men have fallen, like Adam, from his status and role in the Garden, the role of taking care of and nurturing the Garden and its contents, including Eve. Instead most men have become insensitive to the needs of the women in their worlds. Many have become users and abusers of women. Others have actually become destroyers of women, destroying their minds, their hearts, their souls, and/or their bodies. Only a minority of men actually seek to care for and nurture their women, to help them meet their needs, to nurture them so that they will be emboldened and encouraged to fulfill their potential. >So what is a woman to do in such a messed up world? As a dad and husband and lover I realize my limitations to help and care for the women in my life. Some times it is impossible for me to be "there" when they need me. Often I cannot be "there" with them when they go out into the hostile and cruel societies that fill our earth. This means that often they must look somewhere else for the protection, care and nurturing they want, they need, and they deserve. As a committed follower and disciple of the risen and living Jesus Christ, my hope is that they would turn to Him for the protection, care and nurturing they want, they need, and they deserve. But I know my women and how human they are, some proud, some self-reliant, some stubborn, some self-willed, and some foolish. So there needs to be a plan B for these who prefer to go it on their own, not even relying on Jesus to care for, nurture and deliver them. >Let me explain why I feel there is a need for both plan A, the Jesus plan, and plan B, the on-your-own plan. I have recently run into a number of things and been reminded of things that would alarm and greatly distress me about my women if it weren't for my faith in Jesus, that He really does work everything in this universe according to the counsel of His own will, that He lets no evil happen to His own except for that which is necessary to discipline them when they are messing up, to bring them to the place where they hate the societies and cultures of this world, to bring them to the place where they do not trust in or rely on humans yet are enabled by Him to unselfishly and compassionately cherish and Love humans in His Name. >WARNING WARNING WARNING WARNING >If you would be offended by a frank discussion of the perils for women in this world today, please read no further. Many of these perils involve their sexuality. If you would be offended by a frank discussion of the sexual perils women face today, please read no further. If a frank discussion of human depravity, itÕs evil and itÕs remedies would offend you, please read no further. >v >v >v >v >v >v >v >v >v >v >v >v >v >v >v >v >v One can give a testimony and testify as an educated expert witness with only research and education to qualify him. Another can give a testimony and testify as one who has had experience, failed (like Abraham, David, Solomon, Peter, Thomas etc.) and had a turning point experience that sensitized him to the subject and gave him insights others would not have. I have hurt women (though not in a criminal way) and I am repentant. Before the Lord saved me as an adolescent I was addicted to pronography and I used women to satisfy my sexual desires and needs. Because of early childhood trauma I am powerfully and unconsciously touch and affection deficient which sets me up for relationship (primarily) and sexual (secondarily- as a part of the relationship) addiction. The Lord miraculously intervened and delivered me from my porno- graphy addiction 15 years after He saved me and ended15 years of my heartbreaking struggle in my own strength. The Lord is still taking me through the valley of the shadow of relation- ship-sexual addiction and He has shown me that His solution is being married to a godly and passionate woman (1 Cor. 7:1-9). My aim in the "Women's Plight" document is to prevent further hurt to women, especially my daughters and my women and my female friends. The thing I ran across that has pushed me to write this is the Usenet article below from Amsterdam and Belgium. [These site names has been changed to protect the weak] ~~~ccoplanet.com!amsterdam1-tog1! ~~~From: ghge@uunet.te (slaver) ~~~Newsgroups: .fotos.erotika.babies, ~~~.fotos.erotika.bestiality Subject: ~~~pain pleasure - 68w.jpg ~~~Date: Thu, 22 Apr 1999 23:14:40 GMT ~~~Message-ID: <3731ad16.1310541@news.antw.online.be> ~~~NNTP-Posting-~~~Host: p02-39.brus.online.be ~~~.fotos.erotika.bestiality:447221 [This site name has been changed to protect the weak] ~~~www.hergroans.com/warningpages/smwarning/smwarning ~~~.htm ~~~contains the most brutal, violent, rape and torture pictures. ~~~this content is only in this site, we produce every month ~~~new cult videos and pictures. >That is so sick! This site, both the www one and the Usenet one, are available to children at will. It is available to the mentally ill and the perverted. We know that a man is what he thinks. If one fills his mind with this stuff, he will live and do this stuff. We all know that when you see something exciting, your adrenaline imprints the scene or the incident in your long term memory, which often slips into your subconscious and influences you irrationally. In the movie ET there was a scene where ET touched, momentarily, a Reese candy. For the duration of the showing of ET at theaters the Reese candy business picked up dramatically. What we see, especially in an emotional or exciting context, influences us and is a part of our memory, conscious or unconscious, for the rest of our lives. >In erotika.babies they use babies to get their sexual thrills, making irrational problems for those children for the rest of their lives, imprinting pain and pleasure connections in their developing brains that will irrationally that usually lead to irrational sexual compulsions in their later lives. This warps the parent's emotional relationship to the baby, warping the parent's love for the child, changing it into a user relationship, and exploitive relationship. >In erotica. bestiality you find women letting animals do things to their genitals. To the weak and vulnerable male this is sexually exciting and is imprinted on their minds. When testosterone is pressuring a man, these imprinted memories are stimulated and involuntarily activated and retrieved and become a mental movie in the mind. >We perceive beasts as things, as subhuman, as pets, beasts of burden or food. No woman wants to be perceived as subhuman, as a pet, as a beast of burden, or as food because that would mean that she has been reduced to the level of a thing, an animal. We do things to animals we would never do to people. When a weak and vulnerable man sees a woman having sex with animals, he sees her on the same level and plane as an animal. That means he can do things to such a woman that he would never do to a woman he respects or admires. >When a weak or vulnerable male sees brutal, violent, rape and torture pictures of women, they are imprinted on his mind for the rest of his life, and a testosterone surge can involuntarily activate and retrieve those memories at any time. If such a male gets a adrenaline and testosterone high from such pictures, he can actually become addicted to that adrenaline and testosterone high and seek more such pictures, or do such things to what ever woman crosses his path. >Weak and vulnerable men find no lack of opportunities to act out their sick fantasies and predispositions. Women are easy to get at most bars and dance bars. Prostitutes, drug addicts and swingers are easy to get. One predatory drug dealer gets his women addicts, stunningly beautiful and gorgeous women, high on meth or etc. and in that drugged state gets them to voluntarily pose in the most sexually explicit and demeaning poses and then uses them sexually as he pleases. He then sells and distributes the pictures. These women are demeaned in the eyes of a sick and perverted male. He sees them not as women to be respected and cherished, but as things to be used, to be exploited and then cast aside like a used tissue or condom. At least 90% of adolescent males are significantly exposed to pornography in America. Over 25% of Christians, including pastors and ministers, are struggling with pornography in their daily lives. Pornography distorts the way males see females. This means that 90% of adolescent males have been sexually sensitized, their sexual awareness heightened, their perception of sexual pleasure perverted, and their perception of women distorted, seeing them as sex objects to be used casually with no commitment or concern for their daily well being. He sees the whores, the harlots, the lewd and licentious women in pronography eager for immoral sex, so he projects this on the women in his life and assumes they are secretly eager for immoral sex. He sees the whores, the harlots, the lewd and licentious women in pronography enjoying adultery, bestiality, sex outside of their marriages, sex without marriage, group sex, and immoral sex as entertainment; so he projects this on the women in his life and assumes/hopes they would enjoy such sex. TheyÕve grown up on TV and Hollywood and learned that being beautiful, popular, clever and entertaining is good. They see amazingly beautiful and attractive whores, lewd and licentious women who are popular, clever and entertaining so he assumes that such women are good. They see movie stars and rich and successful men pursuing these women so they assume that it is good to pursue such women. This is the world as seen through porno saturated eyes. I assume that most of the women you know are like most of the women I know. The women in my world are the normal women studied by counselors who have told us that such normal women want positive relationships, positive friendships and gentle affection more than they want coitus, fellatio or cunnilingus. Most of the men these women encounter are not into nurturing relationships and friendships, and consider gentle affection a foreplay or postplay elective. Some men, as hunters and predators, use what they know of the womanÕs need for nurturing relationships, friendships and affection; and use it to get the sex they want from the woman. After they get the sex they want, they rarely continue the feigned friendship, relationship and affection. They behave according to their hedonisitc, self-centered and selfish conditioning in a Òme firstÓ society. Some guys actually boast to their buddies how they tricked a woman into sex by feigning affection and friendship. I have known a number of prisoners who boast of how many women they have impregnanted, how many children they have, and how many girlfriends they are stringing along. >It is so ironic the way God made men and women so different. Psychotherapists have long known and made known that the average male has several sex related thoughts every conscious hour, and many more than that if in the presence or sight of women. On the other hand the average woman can go all day with only several sex related thoughts, for the whole day. In a Redbook survey of 150,000 women, most said that they would rather have affectonate hugs and cuddles from their men rather than sex. Elle magazine states that 37% of American women would rather go shoe shopping than have sex. The psychotherapists state that man's number one need of woman is sex and secondly he needs her respect. They also state that the woman's number one need of men is for affection and good listening. The contrast is literally disarming. Women are usually sexually victimized when they are alone and vulnerable, either voluntarily or involuntarily. Because of the difference between men and women in their consciousness of sexuality, women are literally sitting ducks, easy targets, easy prey. Most women are not even aware of this frequent sexual consciousness and heightened sexual desire on the part of men. Most women have great difficulty seeing themselves hourly as objects of sexual desire. Even when men show interest and desire, they often interpret it as the man desiring friendship and companionship from them, rather than sex. It would be obnoxious and offensive for the average woman to be hourly conscious that men are looking at her thinking sexual thoughts about her and her body, thinking of doing sexual things with her. That is not the way she thinks of herself and that is not the way she wants others to think about her. So the woman entering a relatively empty and unattended parking lot or structure is not thinking of herself as a sexual object, as the object sexual desire or designs by a male. She doesn't think there should be any danger. For the sex addict, for the sexual criminal, for the predatory male she has made herself an easy target, and such a male probably assumes that she is showing willingness for sex by being alone in such a place. The sexually compulsive male projects on her the feelings and emotions of the licentious women, whores and prostitutes he sees in his pornography and believes that she secretly desires his sexual advances. The woman is thinking of herself as a human being who should be treated with respect and civility. The sex addict is watching her and undressing her with his eyes and fantasizing about having sex with her. The sexual criminal is thinking of her as a sexual object and opportunity for sexual gratification and an adrenaline- testosterone high. The woman considers herself plain, unattractive and undesired. She hasn't had a date in months no matter how hard she has tried, maintaining her self-respect. Men are not on her mind at all. It is a hot day and she opens her screened windows and screened doors because she want to get a breeze and enjoy the fresh air. She has on a bikini sunsuit not because she thinks she is sexy but because it is cool and comfortable. She hasn't had one sexual thought all day. She can be seen through her windows and her open doors. She is a woman doing what she considers to be normal and practical. She doesn't know that the sex addict next door is watching her every move, undressing her in his mind and having mental sex with her in her different positions and moves. She doesn't realize that the sexually addicted sex criminal walked by her apartment, noticed her, studied the situation and is quite inconspicuously waiting for the sex addict next door to tire and leave his window, waiting until he can see no one watching, waiting until he can make his move on her to satisfy his perverted fantasies and compulsions, to have his adrenaline- testosterone high at her expense. She doesn't have a clue. She notices him but thinks he is just a tourist passing through, or that he is waiting for someone to pick him up. Besides, he is clean shaven, neatly dressed, well groomed and appears harmlessly friendly as he waits. Today's woman must be heads up and alert. When the coast is clear he goes to her door, cuts the screen with his pocket knife, unlocks the screen door and is in and her music drowns out his approach. Or he knocks on the door, looking like a clean cut and pleasant enough young man holding a map in his hand. He tells her he can't figure out where he is on the map and asks her if she could show him. She opens the door so she can see the map. With one quick blow he renders her unconscious, before she could even scream, and it is too late for her. She never had a clue. Today's woman must not risk such situations. A woman can't assume that because she thinks she is plain and undesirable, therefore men will not desire her. If a plain, flat chested, pot bellied woman walked around in her house nude, or with just panties and a bra on, with the windows and doors open it would not be long before some sex addict got a fix on her and went into fantasy, not long before some horny dude high on testosterone walking by and noticing her and plans her seduction, not long before some sex criminal would spot her and work up a plan to use her against her will. The compounded tragedy is that even though the sex criminal wants to sexually use the plain, flat chested and pot bellied woman, he despises her for not being beautiful and so since she is not beautiful he feels he can abuse her even more since he sees her as an inferior being. Sex criminals are assaulting senior women in broad daylight on their way home from church, assaulting flat chested elementary school girls walking in daytime to school or back. If a woman is a woman she must assume that a testosterone driven sex addict or criminal could want her sexually, no matter how bad or undesirable she feels she may look. These are the innocent and naive women who become vulnerable when they are alone and not conscious of how they are seen by the sexually addicted and sexual criminals. The woman, the sexual addict, and the sexual criminal are all victims of the various forms of pornography. Prisoners make and draw their own pornography when they are not allowed to buy it or receive it in the mail. I have seen the work of some of these criminals and it is as good or better than the drawings found in prono mags. Most of them don't give a second thought to the feelings and personhood of the women they crave and dream of using. It is as if women have a target painted on their bottoms, on the back of their pants/ skirts or etc. and they aren't even aware of it. We all have seen this trick played on someone else. The target on women is one that they are not aware of, one that primarily is seen only by sexualized males. The bulls eye of that unseen target varies from male to male, depending on their fixation. It could be her face, or her breasts, or her genital, her bottom or etc. The fact that the target moves is even more exciting to the sexualized male. All this time, the average woman is totally unaware of the target that she is. But what about the women who actually encourage the use and abuse of women as sex objects? >Often desperate women will demean themselves before a man out of what they perceive to be genuine need. When the adrenaline and the testosterone kick in the drive and the temptation is to exploit and use the opportunity. I am not a swinger and I am not promiscuous and Jesus has been real in my life since I was 12 years of age. He has enabled me to handle such situations whenever I have called on Him, but I don't believe the average male could have usually resisted them easily or successfully. >An incredibly beautiful Filipina acquaintance of mine in college asked me to give her a ride home one night. When we got to a dark residential street she took off all of her clothes and asked me to have sex with her, saying her husband couldn't give her a baby, that I looked like him, and she wanted a baby by me. Miraculously I declined, asked her to dress and explained that I couldn't do that because of Jesus and her husband. That incident was indelibly burned into my mind and remains there. Because of Jesus I knew that she was to be cherished, but if I were a godless man she would have just been another woman to use and exploit selfishly, another victim. >There are so many places and ways that a man can be exposed to addictive, exploitive and harmful sexual behavior. One day in Tijuana, on my way to work at a Tijuana orphanage, I was walking down the sidewalk and boy (who appeared to 14) called to me from a doorway, and offered my his 12 year old little sister for $5 to do with her whatever sexual thing I wanted to do with her. I almost vomited and wanted to beat the kid to the ground. This experience would have fueled the addiction to sexual abuse and the idea that women are objects to be used and abused. >My wife and I were in Tijuana to shop and see the sites. In broad day light in the middle of the day in the middle of the sidewalk was an amazingly beautiful Black woman wearing only a G-string laying on her back, spread out and either asleep or sun bathing. That kind of experience can cause I guy to flip out, and with no respect for her feelings or needs, use and abuse her. We went on to some of the flea markets. We entered a large building and just inside the door was a sweet and lovely young lady, clothed modestly (covered from feet to neck), sitting in a rocking chair knitting. An older man that appeared to be her father was near. I lingered looking at all the stuff she had to sell and my wife went on to other parts of the building. She was still in sight and less than 30 yards away when three young (8-14) children stepped out of the clothing racks and asked me if I wanted to sexually have their mother for only $10. I was startled and amazed. I didn't want to hurt their feelings because they were so polite and respectful so I said that their mother was very pretty and desirable and would make a lovely wife. Before I could continue the lovely woman stood up with a big smile and began to move towards me along with her father. Then I said I couldn't because I was already married. Immediately they apologetically began to back up and withdraw. Daughters and a father offering their mother/ daughter for full blown sex for only $10! Sick world! Such an experience would cause the vulnerable and perverted male to see women without respect, as objects to be used and left. >Even church women can fuel these addictions. One college age girl I knew bragged about how many ministers, church youth workers and Christian camp counselors with whom she had done oral sex. Another very attractive woman in another college age group confided in me, as she tried to get me to have sex with her, how it was her goal to have sex with as many of the members of the church as possible. Two church college group leaders told me, when I was in college, how they felt it was not fornication for them to be having sexual relations with four or five of the "Christian" women in their college age group. One church worker told me he had nude petting and oral sex with over 20 women from the various churches he was and had been involved with. In two different Baptist churches two "Christian" women, members of choir and youth workers, told me that I could have sex with them if I needed it. Such experiences for a vulnerable and/or perverted male demean women in his eyes, reducing them to sex objects to be used and left. >When I was working as an administrative assistant for a rehabilitation program for the developmentally disabled one of the resource people was a stunningly beautiful buxom young woman who interpreted for the deaf. One day when she caught me alone, wearing a blouse that showed all of her bare cleavage, she propositioned me. She invited me to have a date with her, strip her, tie her to a bed and do whatever I wanted to do with her. She told me how she did this regularly with one male friend and wanted me to "do" her. It was a struggle to over come my adrenaline and testosterone surge, but I managed and tried to warn her that someday she will let a pervert tie her down and he will gravely hurt her, if not kill her. She laughed it off and said she was careful. She couldn't see how her sexual behavior demeaned her and reduced her to a thing to be used for pleasure and thrills. The emotional imprint of that encounter made subsequent contacts with her difficult and I got the boss to require her to wear less revealing clothing. I still believe she is playing Russian roulette with her life. Why? >Ted Bundy, the serial killer who brutally misused and killed at least 28 women before he was caught, appeared to be a popular, clean cut, respected and successful man. College educated and politically active, people in high places thought he was an ascending star in the world of activism and politics. He used his attractive and charming appearance to strike up acquaintances with attractive women. After the woman let him talk with her and be in her company, the two of them alone, he would appeal to the helping and nurturing nature of woman and ask for her help with something, usually his car. Glad to be of some assistance to this young slim, fit and attractive male, they agreed and let him be alone with them. As soon as he felt it was time to strike, he stuck viciously and brutally rendering the woman unconscious within seconds. The rest is history. >Ted Bundy was addicted to brutal, violent, rape and torture pornography. In his last interview with James Dobson (Focus on the Family) shortly before his death, he shared with Dobson that every sexually violent criminal he knew in his years in prison was also addicted to brutal, violent, rape and torture pornography. Sites like the above bring the weak and vulnerable male into an adrenaline and testosterone addiction that often results in acting it out with a female victim. >Prostitutes and swingers are the most frequent victims, although none of Ted Bundy's victims were prostitutes or swingers. The brutal, violent, rape and torture crimes committed against over 100 young women in the Mexican border town Juarez were not committed against swingers or prostitutes. These 100+ young women were sweet and lovely ladies filled with hope and ambition to make something of their lives, loved by their friends and families. On their way to work or from work, alone, they would catch the bus, a reasonable thing to do especially after a long day of work if you have no car. A couple of the bus drivers would wait until their victim was alone with them on the bus, drive them to an isolated place and brutally and violently rape and torture them to death; or render them unconscious and take them to a site where they could make videos of their brutal and violent rape and torture of the woman They would sell the videos on the black market as "snuff" videos, snuffing out the life of a human being. It could happen the other way. One sex criminal was attracted to a female bus driver. He made a note of her days and hours. He waited until she had a late shift. He got on the bus late and waited until all the other passengers had left. When she got to a dark and isolated area, he asked her to stop and let him off. When she stopped, he turned and grabbed her, yanking her out of her chair before she could electronically sound the alarm. He raped and abuse her and left broken and bleeding. Up until the attack she though he was just an okay normal guy who tried to be friendly. >This use and abuse of women destroys the women. I have a dear friend who constantly has to take psych meds to help her overcome the emotional and psychological wounds inflicted on her in her youth. From age 6 through 16 her brother and his friends would corner her in a remote part of her home and gang rape her repeatedly almost daily. When she told her mother, her mother attacked her for daring to say such evil things about her brother and warned her never to say such again. Her father was unapproachable. She fled the house at 16 and married an abusive and exploitive male and the cycle of abuse continued. Many years later she daringly rescued her widowed mother from her brother who was raping her at will and forcing her to support his addictions. These vicious and horrendously destructive cycles are begun, continue and are spread by their perpetrators and their victims. Any woman caught in such a cycle needs to be helped to escape. Any male causing such a cycle is a real and present danger both to himself and every woman he meets. >Given this environment, it is a miracle if any male escapes pornography and/or exploitive sex and its addiction. Given this environment a wise and prudent woman would be very careful about letting herself be alone with a man, even one who is pleasant and charming, like Ted Bundy. Yet most women take such foolish chances in this sick environment. Date rape is widespread and rarely prosecuted, often leaving their victims infected with hepatitis or HIV. Women often walk out alone into parking towers and parking lots where a predatory male could be hiding out and waiting. All he has to do is sit in his car and wait until the opportunity presents itself to use and abuse the woman. Women often walk alone at night going to or from such legitimate places as theaters, stores, neighborsÕ dwellings etc. There have been a number of recent incidents where the predatory male is in a van waiting until the chosen victim is alone and no one is watching. Then they pull up and park a little in front of the victim and as soon as she comes next to the van the predator opens the door and leaps out, startles her, knocks her unconscious before she can scream, drags her into his van for him to do to her as he pleases. The whole incident can take place in less than 20 seconds. They've done this in broad daylight to women on the way to school and on the way home from church. >A successful professional woman, an educator with a master's degree, will often leave her doors open and her screens unlocked, in a neighborhood where there have occasionally been daylight break ins. Her front door is visible from many of her neighbors houses, but door-to-door sales strangers are not uncommon. Her back door opens to the back yard which is visible to only one neighbor and bushes and trees come right up to her fence which would allow a predator to approach her fence unseen, wait until the coast is clear and jump the fence. He would be in with no witnesses. Given this situation, she will often be upstairs with one or both doors open and screens unlocked. Why is she so foolish? >Women do not think like men. Men readily think as hunters and predators. Women are usually trusting, innocent, naive, and vulnerable. I absolutely believe that it is this mindset that enables so many predators to victimize them. In former times a good woman was protected and escorted by either the father or by another male relative. She didn't have to be on guard because her escort was. Many men on a date have a hunter's awareness of danger, dangerous situations, dangerous people. They are prepared to defend their lady in case escape is not possible. Many men on a date have a predator's awareness of what is going on, and how to exploit it to his advantage. How is a woman to know if she is out with an evil predator or with a benevolent hunter? Often she won't know until she is alone and vulnerable with him. >Alone and vulnerable is a recurring theme in the exploitation and abuse of women. Being alone and vulnerable with a man could be very dangerous, or very fulfilling, depending on the man. It is my sincere desire by this document to alert women to be very careful when they are alone and vulnerable. If I were a woman today I would discipline myself to think defensively, to evaluate "alone and vulnerable" situations as to their danger, and to think through defensive and escape options. They need to go even further and think through such things when they are alone and vulnerable with a man. If I were a woman today, I would meet a new date at a public place for a public date (movie, church, dances, etc.). I would do that at least for the first three to six dates. After that I would consider double dates with another couple well known to me. After several months of such dates, the usual predator would have wearied of the chase and turned to easier prey. >A woman needs to learn to listen to that inner voice of a peaceful spirit and a troubled spirit. If she FEELS troubled or doubtful about dating a certain man or going to a particular place with a man, she should respect that FEELING as a whole brain reaction to the situation, and even though she can't verbalize it at the time, she should respond to that FEELING as a "Not now", "Not yet", or "Not him" indicator and act accordingly. Even though we are human, we have animal bodies and brains that have built in excellent sensing capabilities. We ignore them to our own peril. >This is very real for the obedient believer of Jesus. He has promised peace of mind for his obedient and believing children. In Romans 14 He instructs us how to deal with doubtful situations, people and places. He instructs us to act in faith in His Word with a peaceful spirit and peace of mind. When we have doubts, when our faith about the situation, people or place is not at peace (not giving us a peace of mind), such doubts, such a troubling of our spirit, are to be our indicators that we should not do that which we have doubts about, that which troubles our spirit, giving us no peace of mind and heart about the person, place, or thing. The baby believer is thereby enabled to walk in the Spirit even when he doesn't know the answers and instructions in the Bible. If he has peace about it and knows of nothing wrong with it, he is free to act on it. If he has doubts and troubled emotions, feelings or thoughts about it; he should not do it. >Women can't depend on the police to protect them because they are too few. Women are foolish to trust their martial arts abilities to save them because most predators rely on the element of surprise, giving their victim no opportunity to go martial. If there are more than one attackers, then her martial arts will do her little good, except to infuriate the attackers. When a predatory male is in full attack mode he is almost totally oblivious to pain, pain inflicted by martial arts. Women are foolish to trust their mace and pepper sprays because if a wind is blowing into her face it will blow most of the mace back into her face, disabling her. Sprays are only effective for 8' to 10' with no wind or a breeze coming from behind you. A predatory male is only a few seconds away her at that range and he can shield his face with his coat, hold his breath, and be on her in seconds unaffected by the spray. If a woman has been wise enough to have a girl friend with her, their combined sprays would stop a single attacker. If the two women are attacked by two or men their sprays would probably not be enough to stop a smart attacker. Spray will not deter an attacker with gun. >Alone and vulnerable, a situation for women to avoid. Alone and vulnerable with a man, a situation for a woman to evaluate very carefully. Assumptions disarm so many women. Feminists out to prove their freedom and right to go where and do what they please place themselves needlessly in those alone and vulnerable situations. A woman naively proud of her body and face and dresses in such a way as to show her beauty makes herself a target for a sexual predator. The more skin a woman shows the more she stimulates the adrenaline and testosterone in the male. Most men believe that if she shows the skin, that means they can touch that visible skin. >Please, women, be careful in this sick world. Sexually transmitted diseases almost always affect the woman more than the male, causing greater harm to the woman than to the man. At least one out of every four women have been sexually abused in their life times. The usual victim of a violent sex crime is a woman alone and vulnerable. Please women, when you are alone and vulnerable, think defensively and get out of the situation as soon as possible. >Aren't Christians protected by the Lord? If you read Foxe's book of martyrs you can readily see the horrible things He allowed His children to go through WITH HIM. He is always present with His children and He has promised that no trial or temptation will every come our way that is more than we can endure. Either we are enabled to endure, or we are delivered from the trial, or He makes an end of it before it becomes more than we can bear ( 1 Corinth,. 10:13). A woman who proudly and presumptuously assumes her safety and invulnerability is a prime target. This is not faith nor is it wisdom. Any child of God who thinks that people and the societies of this world are basically good, and that it is a safe world to go about in at will, is a child of God that has some bitter lessons ahead. Remember He lets no evil happen to His own except for that which is necessary to discipline them when they are messing up, to bring them to the place where they hate the societies and cultures of this world, to bring them to the place where they do not trust in or rely on humans yet are enabled by Him to unselfishly and compassionately cherish and Love humans in His Name. Ps 46:1 To the Chief Musician. For the sons of Korah. A Song "For the Virgins." God [is] our refuge and strength, a very present help in trouble. **A song for the virgins, the sexually chaste and pure! What is the song of sexually chaste and pure? ÒGod [is] our refuge and strength, a very present help in trouble.Ó Jesus is a womanÕs refuge, strength and very present help in the trouble of this world, in the trouble of male-female relationships in this world today. She needs to acknowledge to God her own personal inadequacy for the trials of this world. She needs to acknowledge to God that apart from Him she is part of the problem of this world, not a part of the remedy for this world. She needs to agree with God that apart from Jesus she can do no good thing of eternal merit. She needs to give her body, soul, strength and mind to Him by Jesus. She needs to accept only Jesus as her King, her Saviour, her Director, her Shepherd and her daily Deliverer. She needs to ask Jesus to come into her and live in her and work in her to become the child of God He wants her to be. She needs to daily acknowledge her total need of Him and her total dependence on Him to live well, safely and successfully. What does she have then? Consider the following. Ps 3:6 I am not afraid of ten thousands of people who have set against me all around. Ps 27:1 A Psalm of David. The LORD [is] my light and my salvation; whom shall I fear? The LORD [is] the strength of my life; of whom shall I be afraid? [We are to fear no one while recognizing that God may allow someone to do great evil to us, perhaps even to kill us, as they killed His body, and killed eleven of the apostles. Knowing that, we can be fearless if we trust Him to keep His promise that He will never allow us to be tried by more than we can bear, because He has promised to make an end of the trial or a way out (even death) of the trial when it is too much to bear.] Ps 118:6 The LORD [is] for me, I will not fear; what can man do to me? [He can kill you, torture you, abuse you, rape you, beat you and torment you only if it is GodÕs will for you. If it is GodÕs will for you, then you can rest assured that it has been allowed to happen for your own spiritual growth or for a blessing to someone else. If it is GodÕs will for you, we can be fearless if we trust Him to keep His promise that He will never allow us to be tried by more than we can bear, because He has promised to make an end of the trial or a way out (even death) of the trial when it is too much to bear.] Ps 138:7 If I walk in the midst of trouble, You will give me life; You shall stretch forth Your hand against the wrath of my enemies, and Your right hand shall save me. Isa 41:10 Do not fear; for I [am] with you; be not dismayed; for I [am] your God. I will make you strong; yes, I will help you; yes, I will uphold you with the right hand of My righteousness. Ac 18:9 And the Lord spoke to Paul in [the] night by a vision, Do not be afraid, but speak, and be not silent. 10 For I am with you, and no one shall set on you to hurt you, for I have many people in this city. Isa 43:1 But now so says the LORD who created you, O Jacob, and He who formed you, O Israel; Fear not, for I have redeemed you; I have called [you] by your name; you [are] Mine. 2 When you pass through the waters, I [will be] with you; and through the rivers, they shall not overflow you. When you walk through the fire, you shall not be burned; nor shall the flame kindle on you. [Even though this is a promise made to Israel, it teaches us that we are able to go through anything as long as God goes with us.] Ps 46:11 The LORD of hosts [is] with us; the God of Jacob [is] our refuge. Selah. A PRAYER FOR YOUR TODAY Holy Father, I praise You for the wonder that You are. God, I thank You for showing and proving Your Love for me by revealing Yourself as Jesus Christ of Bethlehem. I accept Jesus as my refuge, strength and very present help in the trouble of this world, in the trouble of male-female relationships in this world today. Holy Father, I acknowledge my own personal inadequacy for the trials of this world. Merciful God, I acknowledge that apart from You I am a part of the problem of this world, not a part of the remedy for this world. Holy Father, I agree with You that apart from Jesus I can do no good thing of eternal merit. I give my body, soul, strength and mind to You as Jesus enables me. I accept only Jesus as my King, my Saviour, my Director, my Shepherd and my daily Deliverer. Holy Father, I ask Jesus to come into me and live in me and work in me to become Your child, and to become what You want me to be, whatever that may be. Father, I acknowledge my total daily need of You and my total dependence on You to live well, safely and successfully. Thank You for being my Father, my Shepherd, my Counselor, my Companion and my Comforter. Please keep me safe in Your hand, and in Your loving embrace. >Dear ladies, remember that the serpent of the Garden is still loose in this world and out to do you harm. Below are listed some other files I believe you will find useful in dealing with the opposite sex, in understanding the opposite sex. FILE TITLES, DOCUMENTS AVAILABLE ¥ Abortion, Malicious Bias, & Genocide ¥ Biblical Insights on Sex, Morality & Pornography ¥ Cherishing Your Women ¥ Christian Divorce and Remarriage ¥ Common Law & Informal Marriages ¥ Crisis Resolution in the Unity of the Spirit ¥ Marriage, Divorce, Remarriage, Adultery and Those Bound in Marriage by Jesus Until Death Parts Them. ¥ How and When to Marry ¥ How to Survive Divorce ¥ Husband Wife Relations ¥ Husbands Rule Wives? ¥ Interracial/Interethnic Marriage ¥ Keys to Loving Unity in Families and Fellowships ¥ Man's Need Of Woman ¥The Marriage of the Godly Lasts Until Death Separates ¥ Matchmaker Resources ¥ Me In Christ, What Does It All Mean Really? ¥ Me In This World, Why? ¥ Plight Of the Black Family ¥ Plight Of the Black Female ¥ Pornography, Homosexuality, Concubines and Erotica ¥ Power Of Female Beauty ¥ Prayers for Loved Ones,Paraphrased Bible Prayers ¥ Racism, Nationalism and Bigotry vs Jesus ¥ The Myth of Safe Sex ¥ Sex and Dependent Jesus-believing Singles ¥ Spiritual Warfare ¥ Underage Sexual Burning and 1 Corinth. 10:13 ¥ Unequal Yokes, Interfaith Marriages ¥ Wedding Covenants vs. Wedding Vows. ¥ Why Only One Husband? ¥ Polygamy/Polygyny in the Scriptures ¥ Polygamy/Polygyny in the Judeo-Christian tradition. ¥ Can Ungodly Divorce/Separation of the Godly Result in a Repentance That Involves Christian Polygamy/Polygyny? 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