>Subject: SEX ON THE FIRST DATE???? >"Sex On The First Date???" Dating a prospective concubine/sister-wife? Considering including another concubine/sister-wife in your family? >Message: 1 EliteEbonys@yahoogroups.com > Date: Tue, 23 Oct 2001 19:00:31 -0000 > From: "G" >Subject: SEX ON THE FIRST DATE > >"Sex On The First Date" > >Should we, should we not? That is the question! > > >G Sex on the first date? Felt like that many a time. Sometimes we did it in our collegiate madness -- thank God it was before HIV and Hep C. For me today, it just doesn't make any sense, knowing what I know now. Physically sex is the blending and joining of two different biospheres. Sex means the bacteria and viruses and microbes etc in the body fluids of that other person will most likely enter my blood stream, especially since the FDA and Dept of Health statistics indicate that an average of one out of every five condoms fail to protect, and my immune system will have a whole new job. If she has Herpes, Chlamidia, HIV, Hep C, TB my body will never fully recover and one of those will probably a cause of my death. Soulishly, orgasmic sex means I completely drop my guard, at least for a few moments, leaving me totally vulnerable and defenseless. How can I trust a first date that much, with my life, my dreams, my future and my loved ones? Emotionally it means that I have opened wide the door to my emotions, my feelings and my tender heart on a first date to one who shouldn't yet have that much impact and influence on my feelings. Who needs another broken heart? Who needs haunting memories that hurt, depress and pull down? And my spirit ---- do I need to risk its standing with its God, my Jesus, and subject it to the disciplining chastening my Loving God will have to send my way to help me learn to love His way, instead of my own, for my own eternal good? Sooooooo Test/Examine/Scrutinize Everything! That includes the people you meet and become involved with. Hold Fast/Tightly That Which is Good! After you have found that the person has goodness filling that person's life, HANG ON TO THAT PERSON! He who finds a godly mate, finds a good thing! It is good to be zealous about good things.Whatever you find to do, do with all your might as unto the Lord. Seek and you shall find. SO DO IT! BUT DO IT BEFORE YOUR HEART IS HOOKED ON A FEELING! DO IT BEFORE YOU START SEEING EACH OTHER REGULARLY OR MAKING COMMITMENTS. AT LEAST MAKE SURE BOTH OF YOU HAVE DONE THE FOLLOWING COMPATIBILITY QUESTIONNAIRE (ALONE BY YOURSELVES), AND HAVE HAD A DATE WHERE YOU CAME TOGETHER TO DISCUSS THE COMPLETED QUESTIONAIRE BEFORE THE LADY GIVES HIM HER HOME ADDRESS, WHICH MEANS YOU HE DOESN'T PICK HER UP AT HOME UNTIL THEN. DO THE QUESTIONNAIRE SEPARATELY, EXCHANGE THEM AND GO OVER EACH OTHER'S SEPARATELY AND THEN COME TOGETHER OR PHONE TO DISCUSS THE PROBLEMS, PLEASANT SURPRISES ETC. THAT YOU'VE DISCOVERED. Part II- The Physical Aspects ****************************************************** #1. My nationality or ethnic heritage is _____________. etc through #20 PART 111 THE SOCIAL FACTORS ****************************************************** #1. My marital status is: (1) Single (2) Widow/Widower (3) Divorced #of times_ (4) Separated Etc through #19 PART IV: THE PERSONALITY FACTORS ****************************************************** #1. Ordinarily, I am: (1) Emotional, (2) Slightly more emotional than rational, (3) Slightly more rational than emotional, (4) Very rational. I prefer that my date be ___________________ Etc. through #28. >>>THE SINGLES' QUESTIONNAIRE Part 2 SEX WHEN YOU HAVE HAD Several DATES and ARE THINKING OR TALKING ABOUT GETTING SERIOUS, MAKING COMMITMENTS, BECOMING ENGAGED, OR PREPARING TO COMMIT FOR MARRIAGE, DO THESE SEPARATELY, EXCHANGE AND COMPARE THEM SEPARATELY, THEN make a date to DISCUSS WHAT YOU HAVE LEARNED ABOUT EACH OTHER. #1. I believe marital/sexual intimacy with your own marital partner is honorable, undefiled, good, wonderful, delightful, pleasant, desirable and God ordained.>footnote 31 Yes ______ No ______ Etc. through #13. IF THE LORD LEADS YOU, PLEASE COMPLETE THE NEXT STEP, "ARE WE READY FOR MARRIAGE", BEFORE YOU BECOME ENGAGED OR MAKE YOUR MARITAL COMMITMENT OR BECOME MARITALLY INTIMATE. IF YOU WANT THE NEXT STEP, PLEASE CONTACT R. TYLER AT PO. BOX 620763, SAN DIEGO, CA 92162-0763 oldservant8@yahoo.com, Jabez1Chr4@aol.com PLEASE DON'T SEND/GIVE THE "ARE WE READY FOR MARRIAGE" TO A POTENTIAL/ PROSPECTIVE DATE. THE QUESTIONNAIRE LETS YOU REALLY GET TO KNOW EACH OTHER IN A VERY SHORT TIME AND ALLOWS YOU TO DO DEAL WITH POTENTIAL PROBLEMS/CONFLICTS VERY EARLY IN A SERIOUS RELATIONSHIP. REMEMBER YOU SHOULD BE PREPARED TO ACCEPT THE PERSON THE WAY HE/SHE IS WHEN YOU MEET WITH THE HOPE THAT A REASONABLE PERSON WOULD MAKE MINOR/ MODEST COMPROMISES. ANY PLAN ON YOUR OR HIS/HER PART TO MAKE OR EXPECT MAJOR CHANGES IN THE OTHER PERSON IS NOT REALISTIC AND PAVES THE WAY FOR HEARTBREAK LATER. REMEMBER THE ROMANS 14 DOUBT PRINCIPLE: WHEN IN DOUBT, DON'T!!!!!! WHEN IN DOUBT, DON'T DO WHATEVER IT IS NO MATTER HOW AWKWARD OR EMBARRASSING!!!! YOUR HEART RESPONDS TO THE TOTAL INPUT OF YOUR SENSORY SYSTEM THROUGH YOUR BRAIN, AND IT RESPONDS TO THINGS THAT YOU MAY NOT EVEN BE AWARE OF, AND GOD GAVE IT TO YOU TO HELP YOU SURVIVE, TO BE AWARE OF DANGER EVEN WHEN YOU DON'T SEE IT YET. TRUST YOUR HEART. SAVE YOUR HEART! WHEN THE DOUBTS ARE COMPLETELY GONE AND YOU HAVE COMPLETE PEACE OF MIND, HEART AND CALMNESS OF SOUL ABOUT WHAT YOU WANT TO DO, YOU'VE PRAYED ASKING AND TRUSTING HIM FOR HIS SHEPHERDING/ GUIDANCE, YOU MEET THE BIBLE'S REQUIREMENTS FOR ANSWERED PRAYER , AND YOU ARE AWARE OF NOTHING IN THE BIBLE THAT SAYS YOU SHOULDN'T DO IT, DO IT!!! AND GO IN PEACE. an old servant of the King, Ron The Eternal Father of Love gave His only Son born of, woman to die for your failures so that you do not have, to be lost to Death but can Live with Jesus forever, by trusting Jesus alone to save you from Death and, failure, and make you right to Live with the Eternal, Father of Love forever. Tyler = oldservant8@yahoo.com, oldeservant@excite.com, Jabez1Chr4@aol.com Dohnavur(Fellowship)TirunelveliDistTamilNadu627-102India, www.fitw.com - www.watoto.com - www.foodforthepoor.org, www.facts1.com - thevoice@vom-usa.org, www.csi-int.ch - www.thehungersite.com - www.etan.org, www.persecuted.org - www.persecutedchurch.org, www.africanchildrenschoir.com - www.persecution.com -, www.christianrecovery.com - www.tfs.net/~iugm/oo.html-, www.hrw.org, www.egroups.com/group/PureFreedom4RealMen - www.etext.info/Misc/TylerFiles, www.preda.org _________________________________________________________ Do You Yahoo!? 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