Safe Sex? COPYRIGHT © by L. Tyler 1997 oldservant@mindspring.com lovenchosen@hotmail.com P.O.Box 734, El Centro, CA 92244-0734 P.O.Box 620763, San Diego, CA 92162-0763 Dear reader, this essay/letter in my attempt to offer evidence and reason to discredit the big lie that it is possible to have safe sex with condoms or by other means that two people might try to use to prevent transmission of sexually transmitted diseases like HIV/AIDS. This essay/letter is not for any sanctified virgin who never does anything that involves the exchange/mixing of body fluids with another person. This is for anyone, believer or non believer, disciple or deviant etc who is involved in any activity that involvesl the exchange/mixing of body fluids with another person, even in such an innocent manner as wet kissing, tongue kissing or skin licking/sucking. Given the statistics that the amount of sexual activity outside of marriage for those who profess to be believers/disciples of the Anointed King Jesus is not significantly less than those who are not such believers/disciples, I address this essay/letter to anyone who does not want to unwittingly become infected with a sexually transmitted disease, like herpes or HIV/AIDS. If you cannot handle, or are offended, frank talk about intimate sexual activity and contact, then please don't read it, but I hope you escape the fate of the ostrich who buried its head in the sand to escape the pack of wild dogs. Liz is a correspondent of mine, and like me she has had way too much sexual activity. The difference is that I have chosen to let Jesus clean up and redeem my act, and she hasn't. She is very influential, over the whole continent, so please pray for her when she comes to mind. Feel free to delete this or stop reading it any time you feel you should. Toronto, Canada Lusciously delicious Liz, So good to see your picture. You are so beautiful and look so delicious! It is hard to keep my mind on the matter at hand, your mailing. Thanks so much for your papers on HIV/AIDS. May I copy them and distribute them to my daughters and the people I deal with about HIV/AIDS? I love your color coding! The next best thing to page numbers and it is much more attractive and colorful! Well here goes! On your hot pink paper you asked for suggestions on how to get your word out better. I'm a teacher and a problem solver so be patient with me, okay? Why not get your own Web homepage on the internet and have worldwide exposure? www.Delphi.com and www.PlanetAll.com and www.mindspring.com all have Web homepage options. Check out my web site at http://www.etext.info/Relgious.texts/polyamory/ On your light blue paper you have the line "HOW COME 'AIDS' ISN'T JUST A GAY DISEASE?" Technically your answer is right, but the thought is incomplete. You don't establish the fact that HIV is a virus, which means that it can be spread like a virus, like Herpes etc. You didn't show that gays may have it, but that bisexuals carry the virus from the gays into the heterosexual community, that intravenous drug needle sharers and prostitutes are also the primary people with HIV/AIDS, as well as the primary spreaders of the disease. You sure know how to hurt an old fart's feelings! It is as if you didn't even read my 5/97 letter (see below) to you. Dang! Girl, what does it take to get you to believe me? Well here we go again------- On the back of your green page you have this line ">>>Want to continue living . . . . and you don't LIKE using a CONDOM?" You say that avoiding penetrative intercourse (vaginal, oral or anal), and using a condom is protection in the event of any genital-to-genital contact. Come on Liz, are your going to leave it at that? Is that all you are going to tell them? Liz, beautiful Liz, wonderful Liz you know better than that! You know that the danger is contact of body fluids containing blood or infected with HIV/AIDS, contact of those fluids with any opening in your skin or into your body. When one of my ex's squeezed my phallus, ran her finger over the opening of my urethra and licked that finger with her tongue saying "Yummy!", she had not been "penetrated" and there was no "genital-to-genital" contact but if I had HIV/AIDS and she had gum disease (peridontitis or gingivitis = when you brush your teeth you see some blood in your spit/saliva), chapped lips, a scratch on the inside of her mouth, or a sore throat then she GOT IT, READY OR NOT!!! If all he does is massage her clitoris and labia, without penetration, and when she begins to secrete her love juice, and if HIV/AIDS is in her juice, her HIV/AIDS will enter his body through the scratch he has on his hand from the staple on which he scraped himself at work a few hours before, or through the break in his too dry skin from using industrial cleansers to degrease his hands at work a few hours earlier, or through the tiny hole in tip of his finger where he touched one of the thorns on the stem of one of the dozen of roses he brought her for their evening together. And the whole picture could be turned around where he has the HIV/AIDS and passes it through the breaks in his skin listed above into her urethra, or any inflammation/sore/scratch of her labia! He could have three condoms on to protect himself against her HIV/AIDS while they make love and she rides his penis, coating his testicles and crotch with her love juices that are flowing out of her body- --- carrying the HIV passed the condoms to the scratch/rash/open pimple/sore on his testicles or in his crotch, or the scraped hemorrhoid on his anus. No condom can protect him if she has a squirting orgasm that bathes his testicles, crotch, anus and but with her infected juices! And then turn it around---He has the virus and she puts the condoms on him to protect her from his virus, but when she takes him deep her exposed vagina rubs hard against the scratch/sore/rash he has on his testicles or at the base of his phallus ( she can't see it because of his hairs)-----right where she had unknowingly scratched her vagina (with a jagged fingernail) while douching just before the date --- and the virus passes from his invisibly blood- oozing scratch/sore/rash into her nearly invisible vaginal scratch. No penetration, no genital- to- genital contact but their biospheres have merged and now they both have HIV/AIDS and have begun, as they come down from their blissful orgasms, their slow but sure passage into an incredibly painful, hideous and disfiguring dying process that will steal their future, kill their unborn children, bereave their parents who love them so much, take them from their children that depend on and love them so much, separate them from the comrades and companions who count on them for the filling of their sails and to be their bridges over troubled waters, to be the friend that they could lean on and not be turned away------ ---Oh God!!!! What a grief!!! What tragedy!! "Daddy, Daddy, why are you and mummy crying?" How do they tell their little one that daddy got higher/drunker at the office party than he had planned on and wet kissed a buddy's girl---with his chapped lips, with the little nick at the edge of his lip from shaving just an hour before, with the tiny pimple under his lower lip that he had popped while shaving----such kissing he wouldn't have done if sober? How do they tell their loved ones that when he saw her the next day she had a little red sore on her lip that her lipstick and his blurred eyes had missed the night before? How do they tell their parents that a week later his upset, heart broken, nervous and profoundly apologetic friend informs him that he and his girl had just found out that she, his girl, had HIV/AIDS and they had just found out that the sore on her lip was a symptom? And the Grim Reaper, the Breaker of Hearts, that bitter enemy Death, reaps our loved ones from all around us. If only it were a quick death!!! The lingering agony and the transformation of the beautiful people we once knew into disfigured, hideous or deformed or incompetent beings, it is a nightmare that is unwelcome and that lasts much too long for all concerned. You don't believe Dr.Lorraine Day MD. and her information about HIV/AIDS? That the FDA documented a 20% failure rate for latex condoms when tested on an artificial penis with no motion? That the County Health Departments of Southern California declare that their population experiences a 17% failure rate? That Planned Parenthood discourages the use of latex condoms because of their 12% failure rate in preventing pregnancy, with the sperm being 100 times larger than the HIV? Fine------then conduct your own tests. Go to a surgical supply outlet and buy 6 latex surgical gloves. Then buy 6 of the best latex condoms you can find. Next inflate, to twice their normal size, three of the surgical gloves with air like a balloon and tie them to keep the inflating air in them, and inflate three of the condoms in the same way. Next fill three latex gloves with egg white, then hold the condom opening over the fawcet and hold it tight filling it with warm colored water until it is almost twice the original size, and do the same with three of the latex condoms. Check them an hour later, several hours later, the next day and see for yourself how many air and water molecules, virus size, have leaked out. Let your eyes persuade you. If there is even a reduction in diameter of only a quarter of an inch, do you realize how many thousands of air/water molecules, virus size, have passed through the latex? Do you realize how many HIV could have passed through them in the same manner? On your pastel sheet you have "**There is a 100% sure way of avoiding AIDS thru sex." Beloved Liz, you use terms that the lay reader won't understand, "non- infected mutually faithful monogamous relationship". The average high school grad in the United States would not understand half of that phrase! Got to break it down, baby! Something like "First of all make sure and your sexual partner and you are not infected, even if you have to wait a year before having sex involving body fluids! (Fat chance of pulling that off even though HIV tests are 98% accurate after 6 months, 100% accurate after a year). Now during that year, make sure you and your partner have no sex involving contact with body fluids with anyone else besides each other. Then when you have got your results back after the year's wait, and you are both not infected, then you solemnly covenant by all that is meaningful to both of you that you will have sex only with each other, not with anybody else. And then you keep those promises for the rest of your relationship, and you have no sex involving body fluids with anyone else for the duration of the relationship." Now that's one way to put it that they might understand, but you and I know that since HIV/AIDS have been passed between soccer and basketball players and professional boxers when they have collided/hit breaking their skin and releasing blood in the process-----since it can be passed by breast secretions, by bloody noses, menstrual secretions, by one love biting another and breaking the skin----in our impatient society THE TRUTH IS THAT YOU HAVE TO BE PREPARED TO DIE WITH OR DIE FROM YOUR LOVER ANY TIME YOU HAVE ANY SEX THAT INVOLVES CONTACT WITH ANY BODY FLUIDS, SINCE THOSE BODY FLUIDS CAN CONTAIN MICROSCOPIC/INVISIBLE BLOOD CELLS/FLUIDS. You make that point on the back of you pastel pink sheet. You don't really deal with the possible peril in body fluids until you get to the bottom of the front of you gray sheet----AND THEN ONLY ONE LINE????????!?!?! What is this at the bottom of the back of your pastel pink page and near the top front of your pastel yellow sheet? Come on Liz! Tell it straight, girl! You know that there is no condom lubricant that can kill HIV without doing serious harm to the woman! There is no Clorox/Lysol lubricant that can be used with condom to kill any HIV in the body fluids. Check it out! No spermicide producer will guarantee that their spermicide kills HIV, with FDA confirmation! You don't want to mislead them and give them a false confidence, right? On the back of the gray sheet, "WOMEN & 'AIDS'"--- -----Why not give them the odds of surviving "safer sexual practices"? Do you think they would really feel that much safer if they knew that they had an 83% chance of not getting HIV/AIDS using the best latex condoms? Would you want to fly in an airplane that told you in advance that statistically 17% of their passengers die during the trip? Would you take a holiday cruise on a "Love Boat" that stated up front that only 83% of their passengers would survive the trip? Would you take yourself and your loved one to a restaurant that had a warning at the bottom of the menu that only 17% of their diners die from eating their food? Would you buy and use a car for you and your loved ones if the manufacturer told you up front that they are proud to inform you that only 17% of their customers die using the product while a whopping 83% survive------well at least for a while. What do I mean by that? Some of the 83% who survived that flight/cruise/dinner/drive, some of them will be in the 17% who don't survive on the next flight/cruise/dinner/drive. Yet more of that original 83% will be in the 17% who don't survive a subsequent flight/cruise/diner/drive. Statistically, after fifty flights/cruises/diners/drives, all of the original surviving 83%, those who survived the first flight/cruise/drive, all of them would have made it into the doomed group of 17% that don't make it. A healthy and passionate person could have between 50 and a150 sexual fluid exhanges a year (one to three per week). Even if they were among the 83% that survived the first encounter, statistically they would be infected by the end of the year even if they doubled or tripled the condoms. . * Statistically, after fifty sexual experiences involving infected body fluids and condoms-------- * all of those who were among the 83% who survived the first sexual experience involving infected body fluids by using good condoms well,-- * all of them would have made it into 17% group that became HIV infected experiencing "condom user failure" either by misuse of of the condom, a false trust in the condom, or a manufacture's defect in the condom----which you will never live long enough to prove. Lovemaking today? Take all the tests and precautions possible, enjoy it to the fullest and richest, then be prepared to die with or from your lover. The flip side is yours ABOUT SWINGERS at the bottom of the pastel yellow sheet,"Someone has said of SWINGERS that the ONLY WAY their lifestyle today could possibly make sense at all IS IF THEY DON'T INTEND TO BE ALIVE VERY LONG!" THE CASE AGAINST CONDOMS RESTATED: Since your many friends can expose you to AIDS I really want to share some information with you. It was published in a book by Dr. Lorraine Day, MD., who sat on the AIDS protocol panel for medical procedures and I also have a tape of part of one her presentations. Let me know if you want a copy of the tapes She is quite upset at the callous dishonesty of the government and health community, especially doctors, surgeons and the CDC. She cites cases and studies that show that HIV/AIDS can be passed in the following ways not commonly known, only a partial list: 1. According to the doctor at the San Diego County Health Department, there is a 17% user failure rate of condoms in Southern California. That means 17% of the condoms used failed to protect their users. Condoms leak or fail 22% of the time according to the Federal DA. The tests conducted by the government used a NONMOVING machine to test the condoms. Government sex apparently doesn't involve motion! Is anyone surprised? So you can imagine what the condom failure rate is when you move, especially the vigorous humping and pumping movements you've experienced with hard dicks in your wonderful passion pit. Motion alone, with its stretching of the condom, opening the pores of the condom, increases the failure rate up over 33%.. That's right, one out of every three, or every third time. That is worthless protection, especially for those of us who have several orgasms in one session. I wouldn't risk my life on something that fails every third time. Even if you put three condoms on the guy's penis, if all three of those condoms are a part of that 33% failure group, then they will all leak enough to expose you to HIV/AIDS. If you called up Planned Parenthood and told them you wanted to use condoms to keep you from getting pregnant, they would quickly inform you that condoms fail to prevent pregnancy in about 12-15% of the cases, one out of every six/seven. They will discourage you from relying on condoms to keep from getting pregnant because they fail so often. Well check this out! A sperm is 100 times bigger than the HIV/AIDS virus. It is 100 times easier for the HIV/AIDS virus to get passed the condom than it is for the sperm. So if they wont recommend condoms to prevent pregnancy, then why do they recommend condoms to prevent HIV/AIDS? And you and I both know how little protection condoms give. If he did get off a good load of sperm into his condom in you, your vagina is holding him tight and he keeps on pumping because he doesn't want to quit, it would be so easy for your tight vagina to squeeze some of the sperm all the way back up the condom and out over the ring into your vulva/vagina, especially if the tip of his penis were pressing against your cervix with each thrust, squeezing the sperm in the condom's sperm pocket so that it begins to move back along the condom. Numerous passionate thrusts would pass his sperm and its blood from your labia right into your vagina, perhaps even up to your cervix. This would also happen during oral sex if his penis squeezed the sperm pocket (at the end of the condom) by pressing it firmly against the back of your throat or your tongue, causing the sperm to begin to move toward the opening of the condom. It could happen if you were jacking him off, with him wearing a condom, especially if you excited him by pressing his dick's head and rubbing his urethra opening. This would spread sperm all over the head of his penis even if you didn't squeeze the sperm pocket. Each downward stroke would move his love juices closer and closer to the condom opening. Once out of the condom the show could be over for the uninfected. Do you doubt this? Test the idea using Betadine (half tsp. Betadine/Iodine and half tsp. of mineral oil), or food dye (half tsp. in half tsp. egg white) or a colored jello mix (half tsp. jello mix and half mineral oil). Next time you are with your lover and he agrees to test it, put one of these mixes in the condom sperm pocket, then with him in a position with his penis pointing down (so the mix won 't drain out of the sperm pocket) put the condom on him and then begin the festivities. After it is all over, use a white paper towel to clean up and see how much of the dye came out in the situations described above. Even with Betadine, you would need a white towel because it temporarily stains the skin brown so it wouldn't show up on a well tanned or brown skinned person. If your genital juices (which always contain blood) are really flowing or you have a juicy orgasm that squirts all over him, then he has some of your precious blood all over him. If he has any scratch, pimple or bruise, your blood mingles. No matter how careful he is taking off the condom, which is covered with your wonderful juices, he still couldn't keep some of your juices from getting on his penis --- and as soon as his penis went limp (around you? I doubt it!) it would rest against his testicles which would be covered with your juices so your juices and blood would mingle then. Even if he stood in a hot high pressure shower soaping up and washing before he removed the condom, it would still be so easy to be exposed. Precious Liz and girls, it would break my heart to think of you being disfigured and killed by AIDS. AIDS is known to kill some by destroying their mind and they go insane before they die. Some have got terrible brain tumors the size of ping pong balls that make their heads all bumpy. Some have had terrible running sores all over their skin like leprosy. Some get terribly painful cancers. PLEASE BE EVER SO CAREFUL! REALLY KNOW YOUR PARTNERS AND EXCHANGE AIDS TESTS often. Remember you can have AIDS and be contagious and it might not show up in your blood for up to five years, especially if it is a new strain for which they have no test. To have sex with someone today means that you must be willing to risk death for the experience, or for the person you are loving. May 1997 Dear Gloriously Beautiful Liz, One main reason I'm writing is that I want you to be around and beautiful for a long time. I'm really concerned about you coming down with HIV/AIDS and dying one of those terrible and hideous deaths that can go with AIDS. Please consider the following. I know you are intelligent, so let's talk about it. You know as well as I that a person can have HIV/AIDS, even be contagious, but the HIV/AIDS doesn't show up on the tests for months, even years sometimes (if it is a new strain for which there is not test), as the virus goes underground and hides out in the body for its own purposes. A person can be tested for HIV/AIDS in the morning, and test free of it, and have a hot date that very night during which HIV/AIDS is transferred during sex. Genital warts are so small, that often you can't even see them. Even if you take a magnifying glass, are you going to carefully examine each sexual partner for genital warts before making love with them? I doubt it, because most of them wouldn't let you. Yet genital warts causes cervical cancer in so many American women that it is second only to breast cancer as a leading killer of American women. To have genital warts means that you have to have cervical exams and pap smears every year, and in some cases every six months, to check for cancer. Chlamydia has no symptoms that can be seen on the outside of the body, but when it is finished with a woman's uterus and fallopian tubes, she'll never have a baby and might need a hysterectomy. And then there are all of the other STD's (sexually transmitted diseases) that have no visible symptoms for the first week or so. But what I wish you would consider is the following about HIV/AIDS. 1. Kissing, especially tongue kissing, can pass aids because of blood in the saliva, blood from gingivitis or peridontitis, blood from brushing your teeth, from chewing gum or roughage like salads or granola. So when your lover wants to "eat" you and lick/suck your clitoris and vagina, he is getting the bruise blood in your vaginal fluids and he is putting into you the blood from his saliva. There is just as much blood exchange as when his penis is in your vulva/vagina. The federal government has issued a health warning to all nurseries and preschools that HIV/AIDS can be and has been passed by human bites and teeth scratches. 2. Kissing/licking skin that is bruised or scratched even microscopically can pass HIV since that allows blood traces do be on the skin and mixed with sweat. If he sucks/licks/nibbles your nipples so hard they bruise and ooze blood or if you had a pimple or scratch on or around your face or vulva/vagina that hadn't healed then the blood exchange takes place as the blood in his saliva or seminal fluid mixes with yours on your skin. 3. Genital fluids always contain traces of blood so they can always carry AIDS. So you get his blood whenever you lick/kiss/suck his penis or put it in your flower, when he "eats" your vulva/vagina, when he tongue kisses your vulva/vagina. 4. Milk from a woman's breast can contain traces of blood especially if the nipple is nibbled/sucked hard enough to bruise or microscopically tear the skin. If he has a beard, his beard alone could be enough to bruise or scratch your skin/nipple and let microscopic blood pass through. 5. Bone and organ transplants can pass HIV because they all carry blood and are nourished by blood. 6. Anal fluids and material almost always carry traces of blood because of dietary roughage or the inflammation caused by anal intercourse, even if they precede anal sex with six enemas (3 water and 3 mineral oil). All the stuff said about vagina/vulva loving with condoms is the same about anal/anus loving with condoms. Why do I believe that I should have sex (genitals and breasts) only with the woman who has maritally committed to me as my wife? Because I have had so many incredible and awesome miracles happen in my life that it is impossible for me not to believe that Jesus is God revealed in a body, risen from death and living forever, and loving me and all His children forever. I love Him because He first loved me, as follows: By the age of twelve (just finished seventh grade) I was almost 5' 10" tall and weighed about 140 lbs. and I had a pretty bad record in the community. I had a "D" average for grades K - 6. I was spanked at least each month by the principal for misconduct and I was either suspended or expelled each semester starting with the fourth grade through the sixth grade. In the seventh grade I had a "C-" average with a lot of "D's" in conduct and I was getting into trouble with the girls. I had been kicked out of my church's youth group because I kept on breaking up the meetings by goofing off and clowning around. I believed in God and the Bible, but I sure didn't know Him personally and I figured He was unhappy with me like everybody else. I figured, at 12, that there was no Love in the world, that every body only had user unfriendly conditional love, selfish love, and I decided I didn't want to live in a world where there was no Love. I didn't believe there was any Love on earth and for sure I didn't believe that my mom and dad loved me. My mom was so desperate to salvage her first born son that she decided to force me to go to the church's September Palomar camp in hope of a miracle. On the way to Palomar on the church bus, I decided that since there was no Love on earth, I would either jump off Laurel St. Bridge in Balboa Park or join the local street and motorcycle gang, drinking, smoking marijuana and fooling around with the girls until I got killed like some I knew. That night at camp I saw people doing something I had never seen before, consistently and sincerely loving on each other and joyful. I wanted what they had desperately so I decided I would imitate them so maybe I could fit and they would accept me into their joyful and loving society. I knew what they had was real when I got up that next freezing morning on Mt. Palomar, walked into the men's room and saw guys really joyful and really loving each other, heart to heart and eye to eye. All the more I decided that I wanted what they had and tried to imitate them so I could at least be accepted by them, if I couldn't have what they had. On a noon hike that Saturday I was hanging out on the edge of the group, trying to fit in and catch what they had. I tripped over a Manzanita root and meant to say "shoot" but said "sheet" instead, and said it loud enough for THEM to hear. I knew that "sheet" was "shit" with a Mexican accent to THEM and I felt I had totally blown my cover and that THEY all now knew that I wasn't really one of them, but a faker. I blew up over that Manzanita root, kicking it and hitting the bush while verbally overflowing with stuff like "Doggone it! What's wrong with me! I can't do anything right! I always mess up! Just about the time I think I got it right, then I mess up! What the heck is wrong with me!" Now I don't know if she was an angel or not. I never saw her before or after that encounter with the bush. I never got her name. Later when I tried to figure out who she was, I thought that maybe it was a young lady at church who looked a lot like her, but she denied that it was her. Well whoever she was, she came gently over to me as I was kicking the root and hitting the tree and verbally dumping. She quietly stood beside me and asked me if I would like to know why I do things like I was doing, why I mess up. Well you know that I wanted to know that, because I was sick and tired of messing up, especially after messing up in the presence of the first real joyful and loving people I ever knew. So she asked me to sit down on a big rock over looking Don Valley on Palomar Mt. and she proceeded to explain to me why I messed and how Jesus could still Love a jerk like me. For the next three hours she showed me, gently and patiently, how and why Jesus Loved me. I believed Jesus was real, but I sure didn't think that He Loved me. The proof that persuaded me that God not only could but actually did Love me was that Christ died for me. I could argue with most other points, but I couldn't deny that Jesus died. Even unbelievers believed Jesus lived and died. To me that was a historical fact that few disputed. So when I saw that I had solid historical evidence that Jesus died, I was ready to seriously consider that just maybe He Loved me enough to really die for me. I respected and believed the Bible, so when she showed me book after book, chapter after chapter, verse after verse that plainly stated that the reason Jesus died (that solid historical fact), was because God so Loved me and the world and because He wanted to Love me as Father, as Shepherd, as King, as Deliverer in a very intimate and personal relationship, - - - - my eyes began to see, my mind to understand my heart wanted that Love. When she showed me why He let them kill Him, that it was His choice, that He died to take my place in the court of Divine Justice------- well she had me. I couldn't deny that he died, and she persuaded that God so Loved me that He sent His only begotten Son to die in my place so that I could be His child ------- Eureka! Yahoo! I had discovered the Love I was looking for, a Love that I could live for, a Love to give my life to and for. I already believed that He rose from the dead and was coming back. Now I could have a relationship with the GOD who was Love. I believed her, accepted Him and got all excited. I told her that I had to check all of this out with the youth sponsor, Chuck Hill, to make sure that all that she told me was right on. If she were an angel, then I can see why I had to check it out with Chuck, because the Bible makes it plain that soul-winning is the work, not of angels, but of the Spirit and his human servants. After Chuck confirmed everything the woman had told me, I thanked him and went up the other hill side to pray my prayer of thanks, believing, receiving and trusting Jesus as my God and Saviour. I was such a babe I didn't realize that I had been born again as soon as I talked to Chuck, because I believed and had faith in Jesus and His Word as soon a Chuck confirmed it all. I believed and was born again even before I made my big formal acceptance prayer. Talk about a radical life change! Within a month of my 8th grade year (Oct. or Nov.) my grades averaged "B", I was a leader in my church youth group, my school's Bible club (the girls had a hard time believing I had changed), and I determined to do what I could do for my messed up family, especially my mom and dad. I don't know if that young lady was an angel, but I never saw her again at that camp after that three hour talk. I never saw her again anywhere at anytime. Nobody else knew about her. But God used her to keep me from jumping off the Laurel St. bridge or dying with the street and motorcycle gangsters, perhaps so I could tell you that He wants to pour out His unselfishly compassionate cherishing on you too, making you His forever child. Thanking God for your awesome intelligent beauty, Tyler What are the other reasons I believe one should have sexual intimacy with his/her marital partner? * 1 Corinthians 5: 1 ¶ Everywhere [it is] reported [that there is] FORNICATION [sexual breast/vagina activity outside of a Biblical marriage] among you,-------------- Ezekiel 23: 3 And they FORNICATED in Egypt; they whored [FORNICATED] in their youth, their breasts were handled, and there their virgin nipples were worked>1. . . . . 4 And their names [were] Oholah, the oldest, and Oholibah, her sister. And they were Mine, and they bore sons and daughters. And their names: Samaria [is] Oholah, and Jerusalem [is] Oholibah. 8 Nor did she leave her FORNICATIONS from Egypt. For in her youth they lay with [had vulva sex] her, and they worked her virgin nipples>2. , and poured their fornications on her. 9 Therefore I have given her into the hand of her lovers, into the hand of the Assyrians on whom she lusted. 10 They uncovered her nakedness [vulva]. . . 17 And the Babylonians came to her into the bed of love [making], and they defiled her with sex-sin. And she was defiled with them, and her mind was alienated from them. 18 So she uncovered her sex-sin and uncovered her nakedness [vulva]. And My soul was alienated from her just as My soul was alienated from her sister.. . . 20 And she lusted on [desired the forbidden with] her lovers, whose flesh [penis] is like the flesh [penis] of asses and whose issue [ejaculation is like] the issue [ejaculation] of horses. 21 So you longed for the wickedness of your youth, when the Egyptians worked your nipples, for the sake of the breasts of your youth>3. .] * (1 Corinth. 5:1 continued) and such fornication as is not named among the nations, so AS ONE TO [SEXUALLY] HAVE [HIS] FATHER'S WIFE. 2 And you are puffed up, and have not rather mourned, SO THAT HE WHO HAS DONE THIS DEED MAY BE TAKEN FROM AMONG YOU. 3 For as being absent in body but present in spirit, I indeed have judged already [as though I were] present [concerning] him who worked out this thing; 4 IN THE NAME OF OUR LORD JESUS CHRIST, WHEN YOU ARE GATHERED TOGETHER, WITH MY SPIRIT; ALSO, WITH THE POWER OF OUR LORD JESUS CHRIST; 5 to deliver such a one to Satan FOR THE DESTRUCTION OF THE FLESH, SO THAT THE SPIRIT MAY BE SAVED IN THE DAY OF THE LORD JESUS [when Jesus returns]. * 1 Cor. 5: 9 ¶ I wrote to you in the letter NOT TO ASSOCIATE INTIMATELY WITH FORNICATORS (those who do breasts/vulvas outside of their own marriage) 10 yet not altogether with the fornicators of this world, or with the covetous [not content with what God has provided], or extortioners, or with idolaters [people who worship/serve/obey something else besides Jesus]; for then you must go out of the world. 11 But now I have written to you NOT TO ASSOCIATE INTIMATELY, IF ANY MAN CALLED A BROTHER [OR SISTER and is] either a fornicator, or covetous, or an idolater, or a reviler [one who abuses others verbally with insults, ridicule, sarcasm, foul language and demeaning terms], or a drunkard [addict], or an extortioner; WITH SUCH A ONE NOT TO EAT. Romans 1:26 For this cause God gave them up unto vile affections : for even their women did change <3337> (5656) the natural use into that which is against nature : 3337 metallasso {met-al-las'-so}1) to exchange, change 5656 Tense - Aorist Voice - Active Mood - Indicative This means that once and for all they exhanged or changed their natural use for the unnatural, which for sure MEANS HAVING SEX WITH ANIMALS (LEV. 18) AND INCLUDES HOMOSEXUALITY AND LESBIANISM. For sure it plainly states that if a woman once and for all decides to exchange heterosexuality for lesbianism in her life, quitting sexual relations with men, then she is in a clear and explicit sin. What about bisexuality? The key is the use of "likewise" in Rom. 1:27. Strong's 3668 homoios adv; Strong and Thayer render it as: 1) likewise, equally, in the same way Arndt&Gingrich:likewise, so, similarly, in the same way Run verses 27 and 26 and it clarifies what God is saying about lesbianism. Paraphrased: HAVING LEFT>* THE GOD DESIGNED/MADE PHYSIOLOGICAL/BIOLOGICAL>1 FUNCTIONS/USE>2 OF THE FEMALE, the males were inflamed in their desire for that which is forbidden towards one another, MALES IN/WITH/BY MALES WORKING/DOING/PERFORMING>3 GENITALS>4 and receiving in themselves the recompense which was fit for their error. LIKEWISE/SO/EQUALLY/SIMILARLY/IN THE SAME WAY their females exchanged natural sex relations for those that are contrary>5 to God's design for God gave them up to disgraceful passions because the people changed the truth of God into a falsehood . . " That would mean then that (Paraphrased) having left the God designed/made/biological function/use of the male, THE FEMALES WERE INFLAMED IN THEIR DESIRE FOR THAT WHICH IS FORBIDDEN TOWARDS ON ANOTHER, FEMALES IN/WITH/BY FEMALES WORKING/DOING/PERFORMING [THEIR] GENITALS and receiving in themselves the recompense which was fit for their error. * 1 Cor. 6: 9 ¶ Do you not know that THE UNRIGHTEOUS SHALL NOT INHERIT [THE] KINGDOM OF GOD? Do not be deceived; neither FORNICATORS [(those who do breasts/vulva outside of their own marriage) ] , NOR idolaters [those who have other Gods than Jesus], NOR ADULTERERS [those who sexually have someone else's mate], NOR ABUSERS [CATAMITES, THOSE (BOYS/MALES) WHO LET THEMSELVES BE USED HOMOSEXUALLY [INCLUDING LESBIAN/BI WOMEN]>6.9 ], NOR [MALE] HOMOSEXUALS [SODOMITES], 10 nor thieves, NOR covetous [those not content with what God has provided], NOR drunkards [addicts], nor revilers [verbal abusers], nor extortioners, shall inherit [the] kingdom of God. 11 And such were some of you. But you are washed, but you are sanctified, but you are justified in the name of the Lord Jesus, and by the Spirit of our God. Precious Reader, do you know exactly where you stand with the God and Creator of the universe? Have you asked Him to be your Father in the Heavens? Have you believed/trusted/ relied/depended on the Lord/King Jesus Christ ---the God anointed Saviour King of Israel ----to save you from your faults, failures and mistakes? Salvation from personal faults/failures/mistakes belongs to the poor in spirit. Matt. 5:3 says, "Blessed are the poor in spirit, for theirs is the kingdom of heaven." If you recognize that you are spiritually destitute---totally incapable of deserving or earning salvation from your errors in any way, you are poor in spirit-- you are humble. The poor in spirit, the humble, understand that they are sinners, totally impotent to please or to serve God. To acknowledge that you are a sinner unable to save yourself is humility. Christ Jesus came into the world to save sinners (1 Tim. 1:15). Isaiah said, "When You make His soul an offering for sin, He shall see [His] seed. He shall prolong [His] days and the pleasure of the Lord shall prosper in His hand. He shall see the distressing travail of His soul, and be satisfied. By His knowledge My righteous Servant shall justify many, for He shall bear their iniquities." Poverty of spirit (humility) is interwoven in the act of repentance, the life-altering change of mind about you, your sin and God. When you repent (change your mind), you see yourself as you really are and you change your mind in respect to your relationship to God the Father and to His Son, the Lord Jesus Christ. The act of repentance brings you to see your sin as ugly as it is, as God sees it, and you come to a point where you want to be free from it. Of course, freedom from sin comes only by believing/trusting/ relying on the Lord Jesus Christ. The one who is regularly committing sin is the slave of sin. However, if the Son shall set you free from regularly committing sin, you shall be free indeed (John 8:334,36) The poor in spirit see their impotence to free themselves from sin/failures/faults/errors. They see that freedom is possible only through Christ's death for us as our substitute. They recognize that salvation/deliverance comes by God's act of undeserved and unmeritted kindness and mercy alone. They choose to believe God and His Word about themselves and their relationship with Him. One cannot speak of the Crucifixion apart from the Resurrection. It is the resurrection that gives us newness of life. Christ's resurrection testifies to two vital truths. One, it shows that God was propitiated, or satisfied, with the substitutionary death of Jesus Christ. Jesus became the bearer of our sins. Isaiah's word is "But he was wounded/pierced for our transgressions, bruised/crushed for our iniquities; The chastisement for our peace was upon Him, and by His stripes (from the cutting whips) we are healed." In Romans 4:25 we read, "[He] who was delivered up because of our transgressions, and was raised [from the dead] because of our justification." "Raised because of our justification" means that because Jesus' payment (the death of His body) for our sins was adequate to satisfy the demands of justice and a Holy God, God could then declare us righteous, justified and made acceptable in His sight. Jesus was raised from death because His death for us satisfied the righteousness of our Holy God. His resurrection shows us that Jesus Christ conquered death. Death had a holdover man because of his sin/error/failures/ faults. However, once the death penalty of sin was paid for by the death of Christ's body, death no longer had any holding power. "The sting of death is sin, and the power of sin is the law" (1 Corinth. 15:56). Jesus paid the price of redemption, redeeming us from the curse of the Law, having become a curse for us ---for cursed was everyone who was hung on a tree/stake (Deut. 21:23; Gala. 3:13). His death took away the power of sin. Jesus also took the stinger out of death by paying for our sin so that we need have no fear of what awaits us in and after death. Because our sin debt is paid for in full by Christ, death has no power over us. Dear Reader, have you come to the end of yourself? Have you seen your total impotence, your total unworthiness? Have you seen your nothingness apart from God? And have you seen Jesus, God the Son who took upon Himself flesh and blood that He might die for you and for all people? Have you decided that you want His Way and Will in and for your life instead of your own will and way? Do you believe that? Do you believe He died in your place? Do you believe that He was made sin for you, so that you, a helpless and hopeless enemy of God, might have His righteousness and His life? Have you repented---turned away from self-will to believe on the Lord Jesus Christ----the God anointed Saviour King of Israel? Out loud with your mouth agree with God about the God anointed Saviour King of Israel, and you will be saved, "for with the heart man believes, resulting in righteousness, and with the mouth he confesses [Jesus], resulting in salvation." Romans 10:10-13. Joel 2: 32 And it shall be, whoever shall call on the name of the LORD shall be saved; for salvation shall be in Mount Zion and in Jerusalem, as the LORD has said, and in the remnant whom the LORD shall call. Ps 119:6 Then I shall not be ashamed, when I have respect to all Your commandments. Ps 119:80 Let my heart be sound in Your statutes, so that I may not be ashamed. Ps 119:116 Uphold me according to Your word, that I may live; and let me not be ashamed of my hope. For more helpful information to help you with your decision and walk in Christ, oldservant@mindspring.com or write Precept Ministries P.O. Box 182218 Chattanooga, Tennessee 37422 (423) 892-6814 %%%%%%%%FOOTNOTES%%%%%%%%%%%%%%%%% >1. Ezek.23:3b there were their breasts pressed, and there were handled the teats of their virginity. [Darby There they have bruised their breasts, And there they have dealt with the loves of their virginity.[ylt] >2. Ezek. 23:8 for in her youth they had lain with her, and had handled the breasts of her virginity, [Darby] >3. Ezekiel 23:21 in the handling of thy teats by the Egyptians, for the breasts of thy youth.[Darby] >6.9 Romans 1:26 For this cause God gave them up unto vile affections : for even their women <2338> did change <3337> (5656) the natural <5446> use <5540> into that which is against <3844> nature <5449>: 3337 metallasso {met-al-las'-so}1) to exchange, change 5656 Tense - Aorist Voice - Active Mood - Indicative This means that once and for all they exhanged or changed their natural use for the unnatural, which for sure means having sex with animals (Lev. 18) and includes homosexuality and lesbianism. For sure it plainly states that if a woman once and for all decides to exchange heterosexuality for lesbianism in her life, quitting sexual relations with men, then she is in a clear and explicit sin. What about bisexuality? The key is the use of "likewise" in Rom. 1:27. Strong's 3668 homoios adv; Strong and Thayer render it as: 1) likewise, equally, in the same way Arndt&Gingrich:likewise, so, similarly, in the same way Run verses 27 and 26 and it clarifies what God is saying about lesbianism. Paraphrased: Having left>* the God designed/made physiological/biological>1 functions/use>2 of the female, the males were inflamed in their desire for that which is forbidden towards one another, males in/with/by males working/doing/performing>3 genitals>4 and receiving in themselves the recompense which was fit for their error. Likewise/so/equally/similarly/in the same way their females exchanged natural sex relations for those that are contrary>5 to God's design for God gave them up to disgraceful passions because the people changed the truth of God into a falsehood . . " That would mean then that (Paraphrased) having left the God designed/made/biological function/use of the male, the females were inflamed in their desire for that which is forbidden towards on another, females in/with/by females working/doing/performing [their] genitals and receiving in themselves the recompense which was fit for their error. What is the main point and the secondary point? The main point is that the females had genital intimacy with females, that this is dishonorable/vile/disgraceful in God's eyes. Such females "eat forbidden fruit", have gone into forbidden activity. The secondary point is that at one clear and precise moment (the idea of the aorist here) they exchanged good behavior for evil behavior, they tresspassed/ crossed the boundary of that which is honorable and virtuous and trespassed/crossed into that which is dishonorable/vile/disgraceful. The important thing is not the point in time [aorist] when they trespassed/crossed over, but the important thing is what they did at that point in time [aorist], that females had genital intimacy with females.